I is for My Irrational Insecurities
Irrational insecurities are just that: irrational. But if I can trust him to really see me, how can I distrust him when he says he wants me?
Category: Guidance
What does it mean to be sexy, and why do we care so much? If you want to explore beauty standards, body politics, and living your sexuality authentically, then you’re in the right place!
Porn and My Sexual Self Identity
When I was much younger, and had no real sense of my kinkiness, I had very little interest in porn because I was caught up on the idea that one’s tastes in pornography and sexual self identity must match. The …
How To Give A Great Handjob
If mainstream porn has taught us anything, it’s that a firm grip and a crazy-fast pumping motion is the archetype of male masturbation. Maybe that works for some, but it’s not universal and is not the blueprint for an epic handjob.
5 Reasons to Love Strap On Blowjobs
No dick? No problem. Strap ons really are the great equalizer of sex toys.
Sexy Is An Energy
The secret is out: sexiness has so much less to do with your physical body than you think!
The Subtle Art of Giving a Great Blowjob
Blowjob skills are something that you can practice and finesse, all you need is the appetite to learn the subtle art of giving a great blowjob.
5 Myths About Vulvas
Centuries of puritanism, misogyny and flawed research have created many misconceptions about the vulva – what it is, how it works and what makes it unique.
Sexting: Add more fantasy to your life
Sexting is fun and flirty. Allow yourself to indulge in your sexy daydreams and share the thrill of some mental escape with someone through sexting!
In Praise of Fat Pussy
In a perfect world, a fat pussy and a full mons is a delight to be treasured. I delight in mine. I’m not shamed of it. And my sex life certainly doesn’t suffer as a consequence.
Anal Sex for Beginners
Whether it gets into your repertoire or not, working through the technical nuts and bolts of anal play can teach you a lot about your desire, your body, your partner and your pleasure.
He’s out of my league (and other lies I tell myself)
I had four lovers in 2017, two long term and two new additions. The new ones have broken a period of avoidance that has been more about me than anyone else. Coming to terms with how others love my body even when I have questions.